Another successful Relationship Training Course.

We really enjoyed running another of our courses and this is what a couple of our students said..

"This course is very focused and well rounded to provide skills for already practising Counsellors and Therapists and it is indeed an eye opener. The presenters, Geoff and Helen, are superb. They have truly walked the way they are breathing the couples therapy way so to speak."

"Stimulating, intense immersive course. felt brilliantly held by Geoff and Helen and feel equipped to start working with couples"


Its good to talk

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Most of us are comfortable discussing day to day events, our views, community events and even the more sensitive subjects like Politics and Religion. But fewer people feel comfortable talking about their emotions and feelings.

During WW2 it was embedded in our culture that…

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to talk about your feelings was very much frowned upon and against the rules.

This attitude was passed on through generations, but over the decades things have changed and people have become more open…but some of us still have difficulty in talking about how we feel. Internalising our feelings can damage our health both mentally and physically.

In today’s society its becoming more acceptable and positively encouraged that “Its good to talk”. If you’re feeling a bit low, anxious, annoyed,stressed etc then just share that with a partner, relative or close friend. If you are unsure about what to do about your feelings or why you are feeling that way then find someone outside the family or your circle of friends who you could talk to. Someone who you are not emotionally attached to. Someone who you could discuss your feelings with in confidence.

To talk about how you are feeling is not a sign of weakness. In our view it is a sign of strength and courage.

Geoff Miles and Helen Payne-Kumar


This word and its true meaning was brought to my awareness many years ago by two wonderful teachers, Bob and Lee Nitsch of the Wolf Clan Teaching Lodge.

Gratitude to them.

Its simple really…just take some time to think about what you are grateful for. Sometimes its quite easy…”I am grateful for the love of my family and friends”

Sometimes you might think that you have nothing to be grateful for and life is a mess. But take a look at this exercise and you will see what a simple flip of your thought process can do.

Show your gratitude whenever you can.

I am grateful to you for reading this.

Merry Xmas?


Christmas is not always a happy time for all. Remembering those during the festive season who may find this time difficult. So for this Christmas,

“When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story, everyone has gone through something that has changed them”

Stress at Work and Home







One in three Britons are so stressed at work they have checked their emails in the middle of the night, a study has found.

Researchers who polled 2,000 adults found 79 per cent struggle to switch off at bedtime and leave the stress of work and their daily life behind them.

Six in 10 even said they often wake suddenly in the night with thoughts of work and other worries – an average of four times a week or an incredible 215 times a year.

[The Independent May 2018]

This may come as a surprise to many people but it , in our experience, is all too common.

Lets take a typical example; a couple start a Relationship, both have a career and they have a nice home, ready for a family. Children come along and one parent puts their career on hold to look after them whilst the other works extra hard to bring financial support. Demands at work and at home increase rapidly and if no boundaries are put in place – quite often the case – then stress and anxiety can build at an alarming rate.

We are not taught these things at school and most of us have to find out the hard way! But the good news is that there are many coping mechanisms for dealing with stress both at home and at work. Get in touch for more information simply by completing the Contact form on this page

Our first year in Pewsey

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Since moving from Marlborough to Pewsey a year ago, we have not been happier. Our rooms are exactly as we like them…comfortable, peaceful and inviting. And we have free parking. We have updated our website, please take a look on the menu above.

We look forward to you getting in touch for an informal chat or to make an appointment.


Long term Relationships

 “No. Come to think of it my parents never showed any signs of affection to each other.”

Beginning or already in a long-term relationship?

We don’t learn about it at school. Our only first hand experience as children is observing our parents Relationship. Here is an except from my book, “Working with Relationships… can’t live without them”

What actually is a Relationship?

Let’s start by looking at an ideal way to enter into a long term relationship.

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Relationships at Christmas

We are fast approaching the time when, for thousands of years, we celebrate the short, cold days of winter by staying indoors with family and friends. We feast, play, offer gifts and reconnect. A good time should be had by all.

Whatever is going in our lives, it is never easy to switch into festive mode with everyone huddled around our table. With lives now being lived at a faster pace, and with the challenges we are all faced with it can sometimes be difficult to unwind and this can put quite a strain on Relationships. However, there are one or two things that you can do to avoid this.

  1. Be aware of what the festive season means to you.
  2. What do you want from it?
  3. Be realistic about your limits.
  4. Be realistic about your expectations
  5. Plan your time. Pace it.
    Share the chores – including cooking the feast!
  6. Whatever the weather, take time for yourself, get some fresh air, go for a walk.
  7. Take time to talk to your partner. Are you both OK?
  8. Remember to get some early nights with restful sleep.
  9. Stay within your financial limits.

Remember that in pre-Industrial Revolution days you were kept in check by natural restraints such as how good the autumn harvest has been. Post-war you were rationed but still able to enjoy the few things that you could have.
Have a really good time, keep things in perspective and do things in moderation.

Men and Emotions

Men and emotions

This article was published in 2014 and is worth a read;
Looking back, however, I think that things have begun to change. I am seeing many more male clients than before and they come from a diversity of backgrounds; Brokers,Soldiers,Builders,Sportsmen. Areas not usually associated with men who are able to express their emotions. In fact it is not a weakness to address your emotions. I see it as a strength.

I encourage more men to embrace their feelings and feel a heck of a lot better for doing it.

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Time to unwind.

A phrase I commonly hear is “I just cant find the time”

Don’t be ruled by time, learn to use it to your advantage.
Watch the clock count out 60 seconds, one minute, and see how long it takes!
Then spend another minute looking at the above picture or something similar.
See how quickly you you can become more relaxed in the time that you thought would just take a blink of the eye.

Saying for today

Saying of the day

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